The wise usually says that you are an average of about 5 people that are close to you. Another one said “Show me your friends, i will tell you who are are”. We are influenced by people around us. They affects our thought patterns and how we se things. We adopt the communication styles of people we spend time with and if they are not good people, they will influence us negatively.
People of the ancient times said. “Do not be deceived, evil companies ruins good morals”. If you starting hanging out with a group of people, no matter how assertive and confident you are, soon or later you will adopt few of their behaviors. In Psychology we can talk about group thinking where people that spends time within the same environment tends to think in a certain way that is common to everyone within that locality.
With this knowledge, I value good companies. I like people with positive energy, those that talks possibilities. I get mad when am around people that talks negatives because they can cause you thoughts of helplessness and despair. People that talks negatives can really discourages someone from a worthy course, because what we hear will affect us, soon or later.
I like happy people. Joyful people are very attractive to me. I feel very comfortable and secure among people that discusses ideas and the universe as compared to people that discusses people. I get quickly tired and bored with people that talks about others. If our boss is bad, better we talk about how to forge ahead beyond our employments than discuss our boss.
People that have some things that they are actively pursuing are very attractive to me. I loathe idle people because they can be very destructive. Apart from gossips, they are prone to being jealous and malicious. If you can, avoid idle and lazy people.
Another group of people i value and appreciate being around are calm , just and kind people. I like people that talks few words per unit time. I enjoy company of people that can pause a conversation with a long silence. I like people that i can be around, just feeling them and seeing them, but don’t have pressure of feeling our space with words. I love people that understands that, we don’t have to keep saying things just to feel connected. People that can be comfortable with silence and still with can bond in that silence are priceless. I hate noise and people that will talk nonstop for a long time, really makes me very uncomfortable. If i can have people we can stare at each other, smile and enjoy peace around without words, i feel very good.
I like people who trust that am thinking about them without constant needing affirmation.
People that believes that small things of life like exchanging petty gifts and flowers are very enjoyable to live with as opposed to people that are always chasing after the bag. People that value a worthy cause over a lot of money are also very attractive to me.
People that are not easily offended are comfortable to be with because they let me to be myself, i value them because i can stay with all kind of people without being offended, unless they talk too much:;
However, i like funny people that can throw jokes here and there, people that reminds me that life doe not need to be soo serious. I prefer people who can bend rules a little just to allow some humanity, creativity and fun. I value people that prefers creativity and flexibility over people that likes following stick rules and rigid to the set rules. I like it when my team can decides what will work that what it is. If you happen to be in this category, kindly send me a comment on how to reach you.
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