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Listening skills

We most often interact with others by speaking and responding to their words. Speaking plays a significant part of human life and their interactions. Listening skills are essential abilities that allow individuals to effectively receive, understand, interpret, and respond to verbal and nonverbal messages. These skills are crucial in various aspects of life, including personal relationships, professional settings, and academic environments. By honing these listening skills, individuals can improve their communication abilities, build stronger relationships, resolve conflicts more effectively, and achieve greater success in various personal and professional endeavors.

Definitions

The International Listening Association defines it as “the process of receiving, constructing meaning from and responding to spoken and /or nonverbal messages” (International Listening Association, 1996)

some key components of effective listening skills includes:

Active Listening

Active listening involves giving full attention to the speaker and demonstrating engagement through verbal and nonverbal cues. It includes maintaining eye contact, nodding, providing verbal affirmations (like “ooh” or “okay”,etc), and avoiding distractions.

Empathy

Empathetic listening involves understanding and sharing the feelings and perspectives of the speaker. It requires putting yourself in the speaker’s shoes and acknowledging their emotions without judgment.

Open-mindedness

It involves approaching a conversation without a pre-conceived imagination of what the speaker is going to say. It involves removing personal judgement about the speaker and what he/she will say before speaking. Effective listeners approach conversations with an open mind, being receptive to new ideas, perspectives, and information. They avoid making assumptions or jumping to conclusions prematurely.

Seek Clarification

Good listeners ask clarifying questions to ensure they understand the speaker’s message accurately. They may paraphrase or summarize what they’ve heard to confirm their understanding.

Nonverbal Communication

Nonverbal cues such as facial expressions, body language, and tone of voice can convey additional meaning beyond words. Skilled listeners pay attention to these cues to gain a more comprehensive understanding of the speaker’s message.

Patience

Patience is essential in listening. Effective listeners allow the speaker to express themselves fully without interrupting or rushing the conversation.

Respect

It will involves listening without being distracting by your inner needs of wanting to criticize or interject the speaker before he/she finish their statements or have given cues of wanting a feedback.Respectful listening involves showing consideration and regard for the speaker’s thoughts, feelings, and opinions, even if they differ from your own. It fosters a positive and supportive communication environment.

Feedback

Feedback is the response we give to the speaker upon receiving their message. It is the message we give back as a reply to what we have received. Providing constructive feedback demonstrates active engagement in the conversation and helps clarify misunderstandings or address any points of confusion.

Attention to Detail

This shows we are interested with what is being spoken and that we value what the speaker is saying showing them that what they are communicating is valuable to us.Paying attention to details in the speaker’s message shows respect and reinforces understanding. It involves noticing subtleties, nuances, and underlying meanings.

Practice

Most of people are not good listeners by nature, listening effectively is a skill that is learnt and we can improve our listening skills by training ourselves and practicing to do it. Regularly engaging in conversations and actively applying listening techniques can enhance your ability to listen effectively.

Barriers to effective listening

Anything that stands in the way of effective communication is called a barrier.  Due to listening barriers, it is usually difficult to attach mirror- image meanings to the messages we receive from others. some common listening barriers includes:

i. Unfamiliarity with the subject

If you hear something for the first time, your mind will engage in thinking about it’s meaning rather than on storing it in memory. Our mind usually takes time before sparing memory for something and so to fully grasp something, we may need to interact with it in more than one time.

If you are to attend an educational lecturer, it is advisable that you research ahead of the lecture about the subject so that the concepts and vocabulary in the lecture mentioned will not sound unfamiliar to you. Studying the lecture topic ahead can also help you formulate some of the questions you would like to ask during the lecture.

Preparation for a lecture is a very important exercise. Communication scholars have found out that unprepared listener can only recall 50% or less of a 10-minute lecture when they are tested immediately.

ii. Prejudice and bias

we sometimes meet a speaker who we have bias against based on culture, gender, religion, ethnic background etc. What we hear from the speaker is filtered through this prejudices and so it hinders our understanding of what they have to say.

Sometimes people we don’t agree with in terms of our values, religion, ethnicity and all the things we use to judge people can have valuable information that can benefit us. It is always advisable to separate the message from the speaker and concentrate on the message. For example if your math lecturer is a christian and you are a Muslim, The math concepts are not affected by the religion and so it is pointless and stupid to miss out on the concepts when thinking about their religious or cultural background

iii. distractions

Many thoughts and ideas run through our mind at any given time. Our mind has a tendency of wandering away from what is being spoken and so detaching itself from the speaker. When your mind is away from the speaker, it is impossible to understand what they are saying. Your mind is the most important tools in listening.

You will need to make conscious decisions to fight against all enticements that steals your concentrations. Deliberately postpone thinking about other things during lecture, whether they are personal problems or things you are interested in.

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