I rarely break rules. I understand importance of rules, that are there to protect us and create a habitable environment for everyone. Most of rules an regulations, be it school, parliament, offices or on the roads are meant to create greatest good to greatest number of people. The last thing i would like to have is conflict with authorities because of breaking the rule. However, I have ever found myself in the wrong side of a law in a hotel i visited and trespassed into areas that were illegal. I hated the confrontation with the security personnel but i apologized. It was not intentional, only that i was not familiar with the rules.
If i happen to be in a new location, i will strive to learn my way around. The first thing i will seek to find is the written rules and regulation. I hate being in offences and in attracting attention. I hate it when i have to explain myself to authorities, i will avoid it at all cost, lest i waste precious time and resources trying to clear myself from guilt.
If a find myself in a new team or place, the first thing i do is find out about code of ethics, written and unwritten social norms.
The only time i can break the rule, is when showing mercy to somebody will be better than their destruction. Rules should not take away humanities from us. I had a case when a member of staff break rules that can cost their job, well, the rule says i should report, but after they are summoned and considered for sacking, their income will be lost, there will be children and wife that will suffer. Many people can suffer when we follow rules to the letter. Sometimes, use of rules and regulations causes more destruction than it does good. People have been sent behind bars for a mistake that did not do harm to anyone, but when you think about it, you will see that, there was no need to cause them suffer loss of time and anguish of spirit especially when they were remorseful. Rules and regulations can be cruel and can cause innocent people to go through untold sufferings. Rules are good, but should be applied with care lest we do more harm than good.
Human beings were supposed to be guided by human reasoning, love, compassion, care for one another so that in such things, no law or regulations should be needed, but because of human being being corrupted and hence becoming evil and wicked, rules and regulations has to be set to tame his corrupted nature.
Rules are good, but human reasoning , instinct and love should be used more, because rules are made by human, they should only guide but not rule them. Human reasoning is greater rules and rules should be applied when reasoning and instincts are dysfunctional.
In all applications of law, we should adopt the philosophy; “mercy surpasses Justice”
At my age, they were happily married and working at different enterprises. Dad was working as a driver and mum was managing a small grocery in our local area. We were not rich but lacked nothing. They were strict parents and quarried once in a while.If quarried, they dis-communicated each other but never separated, each day i caught them exchanging loving glances, and even wondered whether they were pretending to quarrel before us . They were buying us clothes and comfortably paying our school fees. We did not have most of what we wanted but did not lack most of things we needed.
My mum taught how to pray, my dad used to buy news paper and he has read it, i took it and read it cover to cover. That is where i learnt to communicate in English. My Dad used to listen to football commentators in a small radio receiver and i sat next to him following with uttermost concentration. Am a good commentator even today, and i love football.
Now they are aging gracefully but when am at their age, i have not started parenting.
oxford dictionary defines law as the system of rules which a particular country or community recognizes as regulating the actions of its members and which it may enforce by the imposition of penalties. Therefore a law is a set of guidelines that has been laid down by members of society which they enforce in an attempt to create peaceful and health social environment within themselves. In law, there constitutes rules and regulations telling members of society about do’s and dont’s allowed and disallowed in their society.
First of all, laws are good. Imagine if there was no law. Probably you have heard or experienced a society where there is no law. Such a society is characterized by chaos, people are robbed and injured, gangs crop up and set their own rules, Women are raped, business people are robbed and killed, destroying production of goods and services and many evils are introduced.
There are various types of laws, some favors us and some are not so friendly to us. The legal profession may have a way they categorize laws, but for me, i will describe categories of laws in terms of natural laws,constitution,spiritual laws and professional laws. This categorization may not be necessarily acceptable in a legal profession, but it is upon them, for me, it will help explain my points.
Natural laws
This are laws that formed without involvement of man. They dictates the happenings of the universe. Among them are physical laws like laws of gravity. This laws ensure everybody remains on the ground and if they want to move some distances above the ground, they have to create objects like planes and parachutes that uses laws of aerodynamics. Natural laws dictates the behavior of human and animals. Both the beasts and human beings can behave the same way under natural laws because they don’t require reasoning. For instance every living thing will look for ways to find food when they are hungry, and they behaves a certain way in order to reproduce. According to king Solomon in his Philosophies he wrote, “I said in mine heart concerning the estate of the sons of men, that God might manifest them, and that they might see that they themselves are beasts. For that which befalleth the sons of men befalleth beasts; even one thing befalleth them: as the one dieth, so dieth the other; yea, they have all one breath; so that a man hath no preeminence above a beast: for all is vanity.”-Holy Bible,Ecclesiastes 3:18-19.
Another example of natural law is aging. Both humans and beasts get old and their rate of aging is governed by the lifespan allocated their species. Another natural law that operates is that animals want to mate on attaining a certain age and men are directed to marry at one point of their lives.
The law of the land
These are what we call constitution and is usually drafted by rulers of a territory. It is the rule that governs the land and it causes the citizens of a country be subject to it. It is a law that causes people punished if they acts contrary to what is written in the law. Most often, the way of enforcing this law is by court orders, conviction, police cells, sanctions and sending people to prisons.
Social laws
This are laws that operates in small groups and dictates how members of society behaves towards each other. Some of this laws can be found in constitutions but others are not well defined. For example, in each society there is a way female and males are supposed to behave infront of each other. This laws are expressed in terms of good habit or social norms. For instance in some societies, two members of opposite gender cannot touch each other anyhow in public, if they do, the law of the land may not have power to punish them, but members of society may frown on them and term their behaviors as an acceptable.
Spiritual laws
This are laws that govern our behaviors towards the supernatural, They causes us to regard the super deity even when we cannot see them. They are laws prescribed by priests of our religion. They are laws governed by religious beliefs and described in holy books. Breaking of this laws may not be punishable in the constitutions nor in society, but they may create guilt or cause conflict between us and the gods.
Professional laws
They are laws that are government by members of a given professional bodies and may not operate outside our the professions. Each profession has its own rules and regulation and laws that govern it. Young professions sometimes they tend to hate some of this laws in a profession but they are good, and when followed they contribute to the well being of members of that profession and their clients.
what law to change
I wont like to change laws because most of them helps stability of the universe. Pressure laws in physics ensures our lungs don’t blow off or objects in our houses don’t fly off. Stable society are maintained when they create good laws. Most often, laws are more beneficial that they are harmful
However, if i had power, i would change the law of aging, and ensure that youth age can be prolonged by 100 years, because it is the best moments of one’s life time but very short. As far as where i live is concerned, am comfortable with the law.
My dream home is the one that supports my philosophy of beauty, love and justice.
Location
The home should be located in a place where there is accessibility, security and have provisions of basic amenities like constant water supply, place to do shopping and school for the children. It’s location should not give my family members difficulties when going in or out to their activities in the world. It should be a place my people would not worry about meeting gangs or harmed especially if they are alone or it is dark. The environment should be a sign of tranquility, security and peace. It should be surrounded by beautiful trees of different species and streets should be well made with decorations of precious and beautiful stones. As i drive or walk towards home, i would desire to see green everywhere, trees and glass.
Infrastructure
There should be enough rooms to cater for various needs. Among the most important rooms in the house is the bedroom. The bedroom design should be such that it is spacious, good air circulation and beautiful. The wall should be decorated with colors that causes mind to relax. Another important room is the sitting room, fitted with coaches and beautiful coffee tables should be a hospitable place for guest and family members. The sitting room should be spacious enough to accommodate about 30 people at once, because of regular visitation of family members and friends.
My home should have a study room fitted with shelves for books and study chairs, one for each family member and few for the guests. The home should have a place for exercise, a room for indoor morning exercise and outdoor field where family can do outdoor activities and enjoy themselves. I should have a field outside the house we can pray volleyball and where i can train my children how to pray soccer.
Swimming pool should be located some distance away from the main residential area as it may not be a regular place for my family. There should be facilities to regulate water temperatures in the swimming pool and regular flow of water for freshness.
My home should have rooms to accommodate strangers. The room should not be near my family house lest i welcome a stranger that will pose danger to my family. But when i meet a stranded person in the street, my home should be able to provide them a comfortable place for the night and also let him/her get food and drinks, without a cost. In my home there should be a place and rooms for meditation.
There should also be place outside to enjoy cool air of the evening and read books or have chats. The sitting place should be under beautiful trees surrounded by beautiful flowers. One should always be able to see beautiful stones everywhere coated with beautiful colors of purple, gold, and silver.There also should be garden with all kind of vegetables and fruits. The whole homestead should be secured with a concrete wall and electrical cables on top, rest wild beasts enter the garden and hide there. The fruits in the garden includes able and vines.
People
The people in my homestead should be happy. The buildings and all the art work and infrastructure is of no value if my family will not be able to have joy and peace. I want to hear laughter and singing in my compounded all the day long. It is a place of love, tolerance and unity. I want a place where people will share their thoughts without fear of judgement or without being criticized , a place where young ones will acquire wisdom of the elderly without criticizing it. I wish i will never hear insults and quarrels within my compound, only peace , love and laughter. I want a home where people will nurture their gifts and enjoy their daily work, a place of rest after fighting out there in the world.
I tend to think every man want a home i have described
If you happen to be my girl, you tell me something and you receive no response at all, don’t think i have not listened or understood you. The processing of information inside me is totally invisible. It happens in a black box, don’t be fooled by my face. smiling does not mean excitement, frowning does not mean disapproval. Heart, face and mind don’t always work in unison. They usually works with chains of command.
Good news gives us health
Good news is healthy to our bones but bad news is rottenness of bones. Good news gives healthy to our souls. Off course we were never made to be receiving bad news, we were never wired that way, that is why bad news makes us feel very bad, causes emotional stress and creates anxieties in us. Bad news disturbs our inner peace and cause us be very troubled, and it depends on magnitude of the news and for sure constant receiving of bad news will cause you mental disturbances and mental health which will be reflected on your physical wellbeing.
And the world is full of bad news. When you switch on your TV, you are almost guaranteed that some bad news will slap you on the face. Off course media specializes on broadcasting bad news ignoring good news. The fact that a large population of the world has mental problems could be traced back to the news they received daily.
Wisdom of the wise
You cannot surround yourself with people that only provide negative news and expect to have good health.
If i can quote the words of the wise King Solomon, ” The words of a talebearer are as wounds, and they go down into the innermost parts of the belly“. This shows how important words can be to us. Sometimes the words we hear can feel like sharp objects that have pierced our bodies. Some people uses words as weapons against other people, and words are effective weapons:;
In Another place in his proverbs, King Solomon said that “The words of a man’s mouth are as deep waters, and the wellspring of wisdom as flowing brook“. (proverbs 18:4). This shows that words can cause refreshing of souls.
Again it is said ” As cold waters to a thirsty soul, so is good news from a far country”.
All this sayings and many other i will not mention here emphasis the importance of good news to human being.
corrupted world
The man’s corrupted nature has caused man to receive bad news constantly, making presence of good news very rare in his life. We have taken care of material things and what we need to have soo much so that we are rarely happy. We rarely sends each other greeting cards or send our friends petty gifts just for fun. We are constantly chasing the bag, and ignore the people that don’t seem to help us chase the it. However we are surrounded by news of economic depression, high cost of living and inflation. The more we earn, the more we spend, and our pursuit of happiness looks like an illusion. Good news are rare and crowded with bad ones.
The news from social medial about school our friends flashing their success constantly reminds us of what we don’t have and sparks worry and discontent within us, we then worry more and create less and it makes our miseries more complicated.
Each day we wake up to news of terror attacks, outbreak of diseases, boom blasts, fire, train crash, plane crash, fatal car accidents, crime, murder, homicides, rape, child trafficking and the list is long. All this affects us because the designer of our planet never expected, or rather did not anticipate we will have all this things with us. Our brains were designed to work and live in happiness, that is why happy people prospers more than people surrounded by negativity.
what about me?
On my part, don’t expect me to jump up and down and scream when i received good news. I don’t show emotions. I can frown on good news but my heart is happy. It is wrong when you judge me by the face am wearing. When am tired, good news will not brighten my face at once. But it will take sometimes before i show my excitements. I will receive good news and never react at all, and if you are a woman that is giving me the news, you will wonder and be confused with my reaction. This is because am not very fast in emotional reactions, the mind has to approve the information it has received meaning it will process it, question the authenticity of the news, question the source, question the bearer of the news and takes sometimes to accommodate the reality of having something significant happening in my life.
But don’t judge me. I have faced many difficulties and nothing really excites me. I have observed and tasted life in many scenarios and noted that nothing really matters. I have seen riches and have been broke, have received love and have been rejected. Have received bad and good news with equal measure. So all life experiences have left my heart numb, never reacting to issues, but for sure, i will respond to whatever i receive, soon or later.
If you happen to be my girl, you tell me something and you receive no response at all, don’t think i have not listened or understood you. The processing of information inside me is totally invisible. It happens in a black box, don’t be fooled by my face, smiling does not always mean excitement and frowning does not mean disapproval. Heart, face and mind don’t always work in unison. They usually works with chains of command. The brain takes its time to consider and process the information it receives, This can take few minutes, few hours or even few weeks depending on what information is processed. If the mind agrees with what it receives, it gives it to the heart that stores the copy of the information. The algorithms used in information processing in males is complex and hidden. Am one of the males:;
If am told that i have earned a jack point of a million dollars, i will not be excited at once, i will first try to relate my life with somebody that is a millionaire. I will envision myself in a lifestyle of having more money than i need, create mental images of what i should buy and places i will go. Create mental images of people my new success will attract, examine the dangers involved, examine the challenges and then come back to my reality right now. I will ask myself, ” Is it a plank or reality?”, the doubts in me will keep me from celebrating right away. But when the mind proves that it is a reality, i will keep the good news to the heart and after few days my face may start glowing, and the joy in heart will be evident.
Are there any activities or hobbies you’ve outgrow n or lost interest in over time?
I used to go out and explore a lot. I could not stay in a house for even an hour without want to go out
My favorite activity used to be mount climbing. I liked walked around and speak with people. My evening was not complete without going to the pitch and pray football.
I was very passionate about playing soccer and I did it with vigour. I was an aggressive striker and caused many goals.
All this hobbies are now gone, all I want nowadays is stay behind my laptop and write something or read something. I have course to complete online, I have tasks to finish in my laptop.
Am nolonger interested with going out with friends and chat. But my loss of interest with outdoor activities is not largely about age. It is about change of priorities. I discovered new interests in computer science and I became romantically engaged with coding. That’s why I lost interest with football. At age of 27, I realized that I do not even have a chance to pray for local clubs, let alone a national team or an international match. I dropped that dream and I rediscovered myself. I want to write, research and contribute to science and the academic world.
I have discovered my inner ability to want talk through writting.
But there is something about me that seems to always stay with me regardless, and that is reading books. Nothing can take reading out of me. Absolute nothing. I read when in distress, I read when am jobless, I read when mourning and I read when rejected and dumped. I will read when very busy, when tired and even when excited . I will always read in all situations. I believe I will want to read when am very old just the way I like it when am young. I read when I was very poor and without shelter. I read books when sleeping in the streets. The day I was given a sacking letter from my job, I read many pages of my favorite book, called “let us C” and I forgot I have no job to pay my bills, atleast I forgot about my problems when reading it. So nothing can separate me from reading, not tribulations, nor hunger, nor lack of job nor lack of shelter. The only time I won’t read is when I cannot access a book; God forbid:; I will with the same vigour when am rich just like the way I did when I was very poor.
All other interest has faded away, my interest in public debates has faded away. My interest in singing is nolonger that strong. Sometimes I develop interest on something and then loose it after sometimes. But one thing I have never lost interest, in all seasons of life, reading. I have read holy books and the unholy one too.
But for sure, I have lost interest with most of outdoor activities, except a walk and a chat with my girlfriend.
Lollypop is a type of sugar candy that consists of hard candy mounted on a stick. It is a sweet consisting of a hard disc or ball of a sugary substance on the end of a stick.It is meant for sucking or licking. Some people suggests that its name comes from how it is consumed. The term lolly means tongue and pop means slap. One rolls their tongue over the candy and then slap his tongue in the the inside his lips probably because of the pleasure found in it’s sweetness.
How it became my favorite candy I don’t know, but anytime I come across them, I will buy them. I enjoy them most when walking or when sitted in a sunny place.
A friend of mine one day bought me lollipop as we were coming from school one evening, and since then, I have always liked them, 10years later.
The history of lollipop can be traced back in mid ages where nobility could eat boiled sugar with aids of sticks which they refered to as handles.
Lollipops are simply made of sugar and corn syrup that are heated together at night temperatures of over 150o and then allowed to crystallize slowly in a chemical process.
The term lollipop is associated with George Smith who started making large hard candies mounted in a stick in 1908 and trademarked the name Lollipop in 1931.
Lollipop candies have other names like sticky-pops,sucker and lolly. Lollipops comes with all kind of flavors, color and shape. Lollipops can come in pineapple, banana, orange, strawberry flavors etc.
Some lollipops can be used to carry medicine for increasing appetites. Sometimes lollipops are used as gifts to reward customers in businesses and people enjoy them a lot, just like I do. My most favorite ones are the one with a ball shape.
If you happen to hang around me, am likely to hand you a lollipop from my pockets at any time.
I use a lot of them especially am thinking very hard.
Along our lives, we collect things in our soul and spirit that acts like a baggage that can really weigh us down. This things we collect when we interact with others. When they hurt us we may develop bitterness, anger and resentments.
Emotional burdens
Because of difficulties we face in our growing up, we develop negative emotions that affects how we see the world. We stop seeing life as gift from God and we forget about what God says about us but instead develop the habits of murmuring, jealous and self doubt. People become jealous when they see others possessing what they have always wanted to have but failed. This stirs the feeling of inadequacy within self and creates anger and bitterness for oneself that is presented in one’s soul as jealous.
people that has grown in poverty could have a distorted view about relationships. They are likely to see relationships and friendships in terms of material benefits and value people based on what they gain by relating to them. Such people can face danger of being corrupt, being dishonest and involve themselves in fraud, betray their friends to gain material possessions and any other evil to help them have control of wealth and material things. Such people can be mean and stingy because their bad experience with poverty causes them have a great fear for lack. Therefore they fear releasing anything they have possession of, they rarely give generously to others and will cheat if it can help them get money. They therefore, destroys relationships and connections that could have helped them attain great purpose in life because of greed which is often fueled by scarcity mindset that which directs people to amass for themselves as much resources as possible whenever such opportunities presents themselves. So if i have to break from something, it is fear that i will not have enough in future.
All this things are learnt as we grow up and as we interact with our social environment and learn from it. Our environment can teach us negative things that we don’t need, it can destroy the faith we have in ourselves, nurturing self doubt and pessimism. A child who is always criticized by adults will eventually grow in self doubt and may let opportunities that comes their way pass by because they are afraid of stepping into the world and take them. As a parent , you should be very careful about how you communicate with your children as it can determine who they become in the word. People that are criticized by their parents find it difficult to lead because they have low self esteem and lacks confidence.
Bad habits learned
Sometimes our social environment has taught us bad habits that limits what we could have become. For instance because of poor policies, dictatorship and retrogressive cultures in some parts of the world, people in this communities learns helplessness.This people will always expect somebody else to solve their problem and when they are not helped, all they do is complain and curse.
We have people that complains to government over issues they could find solutions because their socialization directed them to expect some other people from some other places to solve all their problems. Such societies are characterized by poor innovations, low quality of life, political manipulation, corruption and bribes, high late of employment, backwardness and alot of crime. When such people cannot find someone who can solve their problems, emotionally or economically, they vet their frustrations to other members of community by causing crime and terror.
Complains about government
In my community, the most common baggage people carry is complains and murmuring against the government. I have observed people complain about everything and they always have something negative thing to say against their government. But when you look at it carefully, you realize that they have a lot of capacity to solve the issues they are expecting the government to solve. For instance men fails to mentor their boys but complain about poor education. They complains about economy but they spend money on luxurious when they get money. They pay for expensive services far away from their residence which they could obtain cheaply in their locality
Am breaking out
If I have to break from something this week, am gonna break from complaining what life has not given me. I gonna break from doubting myself. I will break from self pity and worries. Everything negative my society has taught me, am leaving behind, to go for the life I have always wanted.
I will break from thinking negatives and start seeing only positives.
A lot of criticism in childhood causes fear of failure.
Am breaking from fear of failing. Am gonna take risks and invest big. Am gonna quit jobs that does not cause growth if I must.
Am gonna try something new and enter new relationships with abandon. I gonna stop hiding myself because of who is criticizing me. I will not hide my fear of relationship in saying I hate women because of that one selfish woman that hurt me neither will i say all men are dogs beacuse of one male in the universe that broke my heart.
I gonna break from chains of rejection and meet new wonderful people in the world. I won’t mind those that rejected or disliked me.
I will loose myself from chains of self pity, being reserved and extra cautious because of pains I have faced. Am becoming bold and daring and break those small chains of life that holds me down. After all, history is gone. What happened happened and will not allow it affect what should happen next.
Stop wasting time
It is pointless when one sinks into abyss of self pity and depression because of loosing a job yet some people discovered very successful businesses and great innovations only after abandoning jobs that were limiting them. People finds wonderful people after divorce or after rejection(though i don’t believe divorce is a good thing or even necessary in most of times).
The world does not revolve around your ex or your job, neither does it revolve around family members that hated and mistreated you. You cannot always feel small because of child abuses that happened 40 years ago. You can do better than that. The world you are living in is much great. Move out of your prisons and go into the world, It is wide and extensive. A person called job in the holy scriptures said that God extends the earth from the north. A psalmist said that the earth is LORD’S and the fullness there in. It does not belong to your former company or anyone who rejected you. It does not even belong to your creditors. Please break from your prisons. Personally none of issues that happened in my life will affect me in anything and prevent me from progressing to where am supposed to be. Not even the fear of unknown. It is written that God did not give us the spirit of bondage as to fear. His breath resides in us, He is limitless, so we better start believing that we are not limited by circumstances around our lives. so we better break our chains.
Love is a beautiful thing. It causes bright and intelligent people to behave foolishly. But i don’t understand why love has caused more pain and suffering than it has caused Joy. Soo many people are suffering because of love. People suffer in the hands of those that loved them, or claimed to do so and others suffer emotionally or physically because of loving somebody they who can never love them back.
The innovation that i think can be very important is a way to predict the probability of succeeding in relationships with people that attracts us when we meet the.
However no matter what happens in love, i cannot stop loving, and i believe you too want to be loved. But it will cost us a a lot. Love costs us peace of mind, time jobs and resources and sometimes health. But when we succeed in it, it lengthens our days and gives us health and prosperity.
However, we suffer when we get it wrong, that is, we love the long person and we suffer when we don’t get it at all.
The innovation to manage love, maybe through artificial intelligence can help. So that people don’t fall in love with people that will kill them later or destroy their mental health can help. Maybe we use machine learning to predict the outcome of love for a person we are craving to have for ourselves.
Below i have a short story in picture that was shared by a colleague in office who was dumped last night. i felt sorry for him because for a month he has been bragging about his girlfriend today he kept shedding tears. he did very little on the job except scrolling phone and sending inspirational quotes on all his social media status.
this are some of the things he used to share
and he preached love
and then said this
Then he decided to be a successful math teacher. let us wish him the best
we are still praying for his sanity. Help us pray for him:;
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